THE HELP DILEMMA

How to help the people around you

If you’re like me for some parts, you probably try to help everybody around you, try to give soul and body to anybody that needs it because it just fuels you (helping not seeing people feeling bad of course not), because this is your way of giving to the next person. It just brings you peace but man oh man how hard it is when someone refuses the help or accepts it but doesn’t do anything about it. You might want to pull the whole ocean for someone whom doesn’t even want to do it for their very own selves. I know how damn hard it is to see this. Here are some ways you can help people you care about.

First off, if you really are that way, just know you’re a beautiful soul, but you have to literally understand that some people won’t accept your help, you need to respect it. You also need to respect yourself because you will never be truly happy if you ALWAYS help people at your extend and they will always think you’ll be there and expect more from you and someday that will hit you in the face as if you were walking and someone surprised you with a fucking baseball bat in the hand ready to smash the shit out of you. If you really do want to help people, start by understanding AND RESPECTING this: You will never be able to help people that won’t help themselves. You will never be able to fully change someone and with this said, you shouldn’t be trying to change a whole person.

Okay, now what can you do.

Understand them, be physically there

Usually, when someone has a problem wether they admit it or not, they want someone that can just understand and be there. The first step you need to do is listen, open your ears, don’t talk, just listen to everything they have to say. No need for solution in this very minute. Knowing you are there will soothe them one way or another, they’ll feel a bit less alone.

Don’t judge

Fucking people that judge. Hate ‘em.

If you want to be there for someone and HELP them, understand that you never lived their situation 100%. If you did, well know that we’re all different and we react differently in every situation.

What you judge will happen to you. If you say oh I would never do this if this happened, well you brilliant individual, you don’t know that. Life is unexpected and so are your emotions. Therefore, don’t judge. Anyways what you’ll say to judge them, they probably already thought about it before you, it’ll put them even more down.

Give them opportunities, ideas, tips, etc.

Depends on what you’re helping but let’s say someone you know lost their job and they are miserable because they loved their job as much as Louis Litt does, then maybe you can look around a bit for them, see if you can help find anything.

If one of your friends is going through a breakup, tip them about yours or tip them as well as you can.

You can also always refer them to my blog it might help them.

Actions speak louder than words

This one is so important. Even when you think you’ve done everything to help them, there’s always this way. If someone close to you is not taking care of themselves and it’s making them feel like shit most of the time, take care of YOURSELF. Without telling them you’re doing so, but they’ll see it. It really is motivating when someone close to you is achieving their goals big or little. This inspiration will make its way slowly and subconsciously in their brain, then, little by little, they’ll want to do things for themselves too.

This is one of the biggest lessons I had in the last year, if you fight for yourself, you’ll inspire your closed ones to do the same for themselves. Not in a comparing way but in an inspirational way. Even if this takes months for them to realise, they will, eventually. You have to be patient.

Glow and let people want to glow as much as you do, for themselves like you did for yourself.

Helping people is definitely not easy, it might be an instinct you have, but it still isn’t easy because if the person you’re trying to help hasn’t realised how hurt she is, or how much she needs help, nothing you say will make them want to change or grow or get better. It’s a process they have to live on their own. Your role is to be there for them and help them but you can’t do the whole homework for them because they’ll fail the exam. Remember that.

Now go put my advices to work.

Babye

Mwah.