Never on time, how to cope with it
I think the one thing that describes me the most in my everyday life is being late. You’ll never see me on time and if I am, I was probably running around everywhere 10 minutes earlier.
This morning, I overslept way too much and woke up 5 minutes before my work started and when I tell you, I was a lost individual when I looked at the time, it was like unreal I really though to myself – no I can’t be waking up this late it must be Sunday. Well it was not Sunday and I was late KNOWING I had a fucking meeting at 8:30AM. I obviously missed the meeting but I also never got ready this fast in my entire life. I think. Anyways I was actually fucking mad at myself because I HATE being late and somehow, I always am. It’s like part of my personality now, and it really starts my mornings in a bad way because I didn’t get any time to eat or get my lunch or do my hair and those simple things are the things that make my mornings, happy and peaceful mornings. Instead, we got a camera footage of me running from my house to my car, and from my car to the work building and the days I’m wearing heels, I can tell you it’s a whole marathon. At least my outfit was great so I just ended up being fashionably late. Nothing wrong with that.
However, being late is something you definitely need to work on (I do too don’t worry) because it will rarely give you a good impression (unless if it’s at a party, please be late, never arrive before 9:30-10PM unless you’re the host). There’s also the burnt toast theory to remember though, everything happens for a reason and I’m sure my blacking out in bed this morning happened for a reason. If you don’t know it, the burnt toast theory is the one in which you make your breakfast in the morning and accidently burn your toast and by making another one the Universe or life (whatever you want to call it) is like saving you from an accident that would’ve happened if you left earlier or it made you meet someone new, etc. Yet, always being late is not necessarily related to this theory it’s also just your ass who needs to make more efforts.
So here’s how you’ll do it.
- Get.the.fuck.up.
It is hard, the bed is so comfortable and warm and you either have your cat/dog or lover or both by your side or none but whatever way I know life feels better in bed LOL but life won’t be lived in there so get up and go make memories outside of bed right.the.fuck.now. For the people like me who snoozes by trusting their whole instinct and body to wake up in the next 5-10 minutes THIS IS THE WRONG MOVE. I learned the hard way, you won’t wake up or you’ll wake up late or you’ll end up cuddling your cat for 20 minutes anyways, it is not the choice you should make but instead set up multiple alarms and kick yourself in your behind to get up and get moving.
- Prepare in advance
I never prepare my outfits in advance I hate it. I need to choose the same morning which clothes are meant for the day and which ones I feel most like wearing. But if it helps you and you’re able to do it, please do.
There are other things you can prepare though, I prep my lunches and you can do your breakfast too on Sundays or whatever day you’re available.
HOWEVER, I don’t see prepping in advance something that is only for morning late people. If you have an event or you’re going out with friend #1 and you know you need to go get X wine before, well fucking do it a few days before when you have time. If you have a date with individual X and you know you want to do your legs well do ‘em the day before. If you know you have to do somethings that can be done before this day, do them. Prepare in advance and you’ll be less loaded on the special day.
- Take your time
Sooo, if you’re a real one and you’ve read my latest post About time, taking your time is one important thing because you won’t see that time pass by if you’re running around everywhere and this exact time won’t come back.
What I do is put on either music or a podcast and listen to it while I get ready, even though I may not have much time, (okay let’s be honest, this morning no podcast or music were listened too, only me running around and complaining about this stupid contact that didn’t want to get into my eye) BUT the majority of the time, this helps me relax because want it or not, being pressed in time is only going to activate more stress in you even if it’s subconscious and this is something we do not want. Also, it’ll help you be more grateful and present in the moment. It’s okay if you don’t have time to do X thing, you’ll do it later and if you can’t later WELL FUCK IT. What is it for anyways? Is it really that important? Will the world fucking end if you don’t do this now? Nope.
- Early won’t make you hurry
They all say it, wake up early, go to bed early, start getting ready early, eat early, be early, whatever just start earlier what you were supposed to do before getting to X place at Y time.
- Don’t give bull shit excuses
Nobody gives a fuck. Own up the fact that you’re late. (Ok maybe tell your boss what it was but don’t lie they know it and it makes you look stupid).
If you’re late to a date or an event, don’t lie just say you’re sorry you’re late or thanks for their patience because truly you are wasting people’s time (to my people, I’m sorry for wasting probably 5 months in total to each of you) and coming up with the ‘’ I wAs StUcK iN tRaFfIc’’ is just being disrespectful. Of course, if you were stuck in traffic ok not cool but again, they don’t give a fuck. That’s one thing my father taught me is that you own up, don’t start saying stupid shit so people feel bad for you, nanana just be on time or don’t but take responsibility for not being.
Also, working too early is not an excuse, whatever time you’re working you’ll end up being familiar with it and then start being late again. People on construction wake at what 4AM and they’re on time, I see that girl on Tiktok, she makes the morning news and she wakes up around what 3AM I think and she’s NEVER late on set. That’s just another excuse, you can work with whatever time you start.
- Set your routine
Girl math here but make it for everybody.
For example, I start at 8:30AM, I know I’m 5 minutes away, but I need 5 minutes to put my things and prep my desk before my 8:30 meeting so I need to be there at 8:25, but if there are any incident on road or construction, I need to leave at 8:15. I wake up around 6:15AM I then take 5 minutes to do my skincare or 15 to take a shower (my waking up will depend on what shower I’m taking this morning), anyways, then I do my make up around 7AM until around 7:15-20, then I have until 7:45 to pick out and outfit, put the jewelry, etc. At 7:45 I need to be in the kitchen making my breakfast and putting together my lunch, at 8:10 I have 5 minutes to get my bag, brush my teeth put on my shoes and leave. Girl math. Everybody math.
If you can construct your morning you’ll know when each part of the routine needs to be done and you’ll be structured in it.
- Leave the phone
I know I said take your time, but if you’re taking too much time on your phone when you wake up and that’s what’s making you late, please leave it on the desk until you leave. It’s not good for you anyways, so wake up be grateful you woke up and enjoy the morning, check the messages later. When you wake up, that’s when your body AND brain is most refreshed and relaxed, don’t inject that blue cellphone light in it just now, give yourself a break.
How hard is it to be on time? I seriously envy punctual people, but I also like people that are late, because girl same. Unexpected things will always happen, we still need to work around what’s called life.
Personally, I know it can’t work for all companies, but if I have mine later and it is possible, I will say you start at X time, but as long as your work is done I’m happy. Of course, there are exceptions and meetings and all sort of things that need to be taken in consideration but still, I do like that concept. But again, not all companies can do that.
If you’re always early somewhere, please leave a comment and let us know how the hell do you manage your life, we’re all curious here LOL.
Anyways, hope this helped you a bit and you’ll be on time tomorrow, I’ll let you know about me on Instagram.
Mwah.
