When you get through a chaotic day
I just had a bitch ass day. I’ve had worst ones, but I’ve definitely had better ones too. I mean did you ever had one of those days you woke up and immediately knew it wasn’t going to be it for you? That happens to me at least once every two weeks, at least. I just wake up and tell myself it’s okay you’ll be okay just think positively, but some days, positivity is not enough, some days, life just slaps you in the face and straight up pushes you down the alley and it’s painful because you probably just sit on your ass and let it do it to you. Tough times my friends, but let’s get it together.
Here is my process of going through one of these days
- I wake up and have a weird feeling like I’m not feeling myself
That’s when I know the chances for this day are not really high but I still tell myself it might change. However, feeling like I’m just a fucking stranger to myself is one of the feelings I hate most.
- Not finding the right outfit
If I’ve been in my closet for the last 30 minutes and every clothes I own is stacked on my chair or on my open drawers, I’m still in underwear, my hair is not done, I’ve elaborated multiple possible styles but not one felt absolutely right, my boy cat is starring at me wondering why in the hell am I pinching my forehead and telling myself « girl it’s not that hard just pick a.fucking.outfit. » then that’s when you know I’m doomed LOL. Because if I can’t leave the house feeling comfortable in what I wear, it will affect my mood and don’t come telling me that it’s simple because some days, it just isn’t.
- Being late
Well I’m already always late, but on a bitch day, being late is touching my actual anger nerve if I do have one. It’s like I can’t deal with myself.
- Clumsy
When I’m late or having that kind of day, it’s like my soul wants me to have a whole bunch of 20 reasons to decide to leave the country because it plays on my fucking patience (which I actually don’t have at all FYI) starting with being a clumsy gal. I’ll drop the maple sirup and will have the hardest time cleaning it up, I’ll get my fucking pants stuck on a door handle, I’ll try to get my things and everything will fall including my phone, I’ll drop toothpaste on my shirt, and I could keep going on but we don’t have time for that.
- I need to take a shit at work
Oh those can actually be on my top three biggest pet peeves. I mean, physically I can do it at work, but emotionally you’re asking too much. My stomach and I will be waiting until we get home at 5:08PM, we will most probably have huge cramps and feel ill, but not a chance am I shitting in a 2 person toilet knowing we are 4 girls out of 35 guys in the office and that there is a very good chance someone will walk in this 2 toilet restroom.
- Coworkers
I actually should do a post on coworkers, brb just taking this in my notes.
If my patience has already been tested this much and you come up to me only to tell me you’ve sent me an email, well Bernard, you’ve just lit up a fire and you don’t even know it. I mean fuck, I’ll read your email when I’ll get there, why the hell are you losing my time by telling me? But you know this is just me complaining here, I like most of my coworkers even though they have this tendency, it’s just some days I don’t have the patience for you to literally read me your email and for me to read it again in 27 minutes.
- Vol-au-Vent
Oh jesus I hate this meal. It’s the only meal I will ever hate on this planet forever and I will not stand anyone that tells me how good it is, cause let’s be real it’s not. Don’t get me wrong I am very much grateful to come home and have food on the table, but vol-au-vent, seriously? I mean who even invented this name? (Let me google it real quick).
Ok Antoine-Marie Carême, you’re canceled on my behalf.
- Allergies
The people that gets it, gets it.
- No motivation
When I need to get a lot done and I can’t find the motivation anywhere, I have to say it does play on my mood if my day has already not been great.
- Anxiety
A bitch day is often topped by a touch of anxiety for me 🤠. Why let me be in peace right?
However, it’s in those days I know I have to take better care of myself than usually and I have to cut myself some slack.
You’ve seen my recipe for a bad day now let’s see my recipe to remedy it.
How do I get the best out of a bad day
- Meditate
Sometimes, it helps me put in perspective why I’m feeling the way I’m feeling and it helps calming me down especially if I’m anxious. It just puts in order my thoughts and lets me be in the present moment if I’m starting to drive off to a negative thinking.
- Look out for the best
That’s something I’ve been trying in the last months, and it helped me a lot. If I’m being clumsy I’ll just laugh, even though it’s a pain in the ass, it’s still a funny fucking scene.
If I received an expensive car bill, well fuck I’m just grateful I have a car.
Positive thinking, being grateful and looking for the best in things is not always easy, but it helps so very much and when you look back one day, you’ll be grateful you didn’t stand down to the negative.
- Just be
Some days, anything you do will not be of help, some days you just have to be there and be proud you got out of bed, or be proud you stayed in because you respected your boundaries. Just being is hard enough sometimes and doing more isn’t necessarily making the day better, but just getting through it can.
- Lighting up my spark
When my spark is turning off slowly, it may only need me to light it back up slowly. I’m not saying it will work every time, but it never hurts to try.
For example, if I’m not in the mood to go to the gym and I do still need to go, I’ll put on good music that makes me want to lift those weights, I’ll look at my progress pictures, etc.
If it’s for a project I have, I’ll remember why I’m doing it in the first place, what gave me the fire to start it? What made me want to fight to have this, what’s my fucking dream for this?
- Going to my people, my dog & my cat
The ones that make me feel whole and better. The ones that want me to win, the ones that know me and are ready to be there for me.
Also, a good cuddle with my pets always helps.
- Seeing my therapist
If this bitch day goes on for a good four-five days, you might see me calling my therapist and asking for an appointment. That’s where I unload my shit and get the best advices ever.
- Selfcare
I’ll never say it enough, self-care is too important for you to ignore it. When I know I need to take care of myself, I know I need to do things I like, things that calm me. I HAVE to take care of me when I’m feeling down or else, what good is becoming the best version of myself doing?
- Giving
When I give, I feel whole. When I see someone’s face lighting up because I thought of them and gave them whatever it is I gave them, it makes me feel so much better. It just makes me realise that love is all around us, whether it is romantic or not. Giving to someone is putting your energy in someone and maybe you don’t know it, but when you receive and see someone giving YOU their energy, it makes you at least a little bit more happy, so why not do it to others?
If you’re feeling down, maybe buy your favorite person some flowers or send them a coffee via uber and seeing how much this will make them happy, will make you happier.
- LIVE LAUGH LOVE
Laughing makes you feel alive and it makes you fall in love. It also releases endorphins in your brain which gives you more happiness. What I like to do, is either watch a comedy show, a comedy movie or call my best friend who’s one of the funniest people I know on this earth.
Also, love makes you happier, so give it out to whoever you want.
- Comfortable clothes, good food & a comfort movie
There it is, the final ingredient. Being in comfortable clothes while eating what I’m fucking craving and putting on one of my favorite comfort movie, makes me better. I think it definitely makes me a better human cause it’s therapeutic, there’S no other way around it.
**Bonus point* – Shopping
If I have the energy to, I will go to a Winners and look out every inch of the place. It doesn’t mean I’m spending 300$, it only means I’m looking around getting my creativity up and looking at deals. It just makes me feel better, but it’s not always my number 1 go to.
This is it, my recipes. If you’re having a bad day, maybe writing down your recipes might help you bitch out the day, and it might help you already have the ingredients in place for the next time you’re not feeling well and don’t know what to do. Bad days will always be there, but the way you get through them shows you so much about yourself and those days make you able to understand every part of who you are, mostly the ones you dislike the most.
You’re going to have brighter days beautiful, I know it and I wish it to you.
Mwah.
