In the past few weeks, I’ve been healing a wound that’s been open for too long, a wound that was bleeding and I ignored it for a while because I thought it was normal, I thought the wound wasn’t that bad and only needed to heal on its own. Now I know, it’s not the case, now I know, I’ve lost too much blood because of it. Nevertheless, we all end up going through some storms, some traumas and we get out of them hurt, which is the topic I want to bring on the table this week; healing the wounds that are hurting us, because healing is one of the most important aspect of self-growth. Let’s dive into it.
I just want to start by saying that whatever is going on in your life, whatever happened, your feelings are valid and it’s okay to feel whatever you are feeling.
Healing is a Charlotte Cardin song, but healing also is a slap in the face
One day you’re feeling better, one day you’re great and then, one day, you’re getting beat up by life itself, and probably your feelings. Healing isn’t linear, I think nothing is, except like straight lines themselves lol. Anyways, you may be better than you were two days ago, but it doesn’t mean you’re completely healed because it takes time and care, because in two days a situation might happen which will trigger you and cause a break down. This is why listening to yourself truly is incredibly important in this process.
What healing is to me…
…it’s crying yourself to sleep because just falling asleep isn’t an option tonight
…it’s pouring your heart out to someone that really listens to you and whom you trust deeply or the first person that pops up when you most need it
…it’s eating your favorite ice cream in front of the movie you’ve watched a thousand times since you were a kid
…it’s a sweet, soft song that soothes you
…it’s pulling out a sad playlist on Spotify which you’ll blast up while crying as much as you can
…it’s looking at someone you love smiling and it making your heart feel a bit more at ease
…it’s trying to move on with different solutions, or help groups, or therapists, etc.
…it’s taking a bath with a candle and nothing but your thoughts
…it’s letting your emotions be felt instead of dismissing them
…it’s buying new furniture/decoration to make your room(s) look different but better
…it’s letting go of things that make you remember what you went through in a bad way
…it’s making place for new things, people, routines, to fit the healed skin better
…it’s taking a long, hot shower to let go of the bad energy that surrounded your bad day
…it’s being honest with yourself
…it’s so many things.
New energy, new skin, new atmosphere, new YOU.
When you realise you need to heal whatever it is that needs healing, it feels overwhelming, it feels like you just came into your room and it’s the worst chaos ever, and everything needs cleaning. Sometimes, we think we can’t make it because it isn’t possible to clean all of this up in one day, however, what you should know first, is that healing takes time, and YOU take as much time as YOU need. If the ‘’room’’ is too hard to clean one day, then don’t, sit in it and close your eyes. Tomorrow you’ll pick up the dirty clothes on the floor. The day after, you’ll throw out every take-out trash that’s still there. (You get that the room isn’t actually your room, it’s metaphorical).
Once you start your healing, it’s like everything shifts, because if you’re healing, there will be a scar, therefore your skin will never completely be the same again, yet it won’t be bleeding anymore. Any experience or trauma can and most probably will change you, but it isn’t bad. It happened for a reason, you might not know it now, you might never, but someday you’ll understand it a little bit more. Then, you’ll bring a new energy to the table, you’ll have learned lessons, and put up a new atmosphere around you because the last one was so toxic you couldn’t breath anymore. It’s a new YOU.
What I think is most important in healing
- Accepting and being aware of your emotions
How can you process and get past them if you ignore & dismiss them? I know it’s really hard, but go RIGHT through them, you’ll get out more resilient, stronger & better.
You can write up every emotions you feel towards a situation and try to understand why you feel each one of them.
- Don’t keep everything to yourself
Open up to someone you can trust, talk to them about every aspect of the situation and let it all get out, word vomit because somehow sometimes, that’s the way the toxins have to get out (I literally don’t know anything about medicine).
- Don’t force yourself
Something I learned this year is forcing yourself to be happy a day when you’re not, is not ok. Don’t tell yourself what you should and shouldn’t feel, just feel it. If you’re really sad or feel a lot of anger one day, then that’s okay, take some alone time and process it. Of course, you have to kick yourself in the butt sometimes to feel better, but some days are just meant to feel like shit.
- Be there for yourself, love yourself
Love is the greatest medicine (again, not a doctor LOL), because it’s filled with compassion, care & softness which is what you should bring to yourself if you’re in a healing process. Understand yourself, love yourself through the little & big things that make you happy and the ones that make you sad. Know what you need in every moment.
- Surround yourself with peaceful & appeasing energy
Surround yourself with people that make your heart feels full, that makes you feel better about X situation. Cut off the ones that don’t.
Surround yourself with a routine that makes you feel fulfilled and happy to go through the next day.
Surround yourself with things that bring you joy, or that enlighten your day.
Surround yourself with NEW things.
Surround yourself with activities that are going to make you grateful for the day you just had, that are going to help healing you.
Surroundings are powerful.
There is so much more to healing, I might even make a part two, but this is the most important for me at the moment. If you’ve read this far I think you might be going through something hard, and I really want to say how strong you are, don’t you dare give up because the sun will shine again and so will you. Like I said, healing isn’t linear or timed, you take it one day at a time and take care of you.
You’re farther than you think, and I hope you’re proud of you.
Thank you for reading me, it means a whole lot.
Sending meaningful mwahs this week.
