10 ways to confirm if you’re with the right person
This is something some of my friends and I say; Have you found your Dave? Your Dave is the person that completes you, the one you are madly in love with and genuinely KNOW you’ll spend the rest of your life with. We started this because of this amazing person I know who’s been in the same relationship for nine years. She and Dave have loved each other everyday for a very long time and they are absolutely perfect for each other. They treat themselves right, respect themselves and also have some fights but always end up coming back loving each other even more. Dave has been texting her I love you every work day for years at exactly 12PM, they both discovered love and home in one human and are now a complete puzzle.
Your Dave is not someone who hurts you, it is not someone who disrespects you and takes you for granted. Your Dave is someone who pushes you to be a better person and becomes a better person along with you. Your Dave is the one human that puts you out of your comfort zone while being your comfort. Your Dave is the person you see in the crowd and immediately feel better. Your Dave is the person that drives you crazy in life and in bed, your Dave is someone that GETS you and fulfills your love language.
I’m not talking about some crush you had two days ago. I’m talking about love, real authentic, precious love. The kind that makes you want to be under your best light for them. The kind where you look at them and all you think is how gorgeous their fucking smile is. There are levels of love in life, but the love you feel towards your soulmate is unmatched.
How to know you’ve met the right person
- They respect you and your boundaries
Respect is one of the love pillars. If the person you’re with doesn’t respect you in any way or assume you’ll always be there, then they don’t really love you and they are not your person.
- They make you feel secure
Don’t take this the wrong way, you should feel secure about yourself before getting with someone, you can’t put this weight on their shoulders. However, making someone secure in the relationship is different. They make you feel secure when you know nothing could come between the two of you.
- They’re an addition, not the whole equation
Meeting the true love of your life requires you to be complete and whole by your own self before having them come in. If not you might (subconsciously or not) put them to the center of your life and forget about what’s around and that’s when it becomes unhealthy. Before being in a relationship with X, you are first you (your name). You have your own hobbies, friends, family, carreer, etc. It shouldn’t be the only thing for you to see. Look at the whole picture and see what else you like in it.
- It is mature & simple
Being with your person shouldn’t be complicated. They love you, you love them and that’s what matters most, the rest can easily be figured out. There is no big drama over little things EVERYDAY.
- They are your fan #1
I mean if they aren’t pushing you towards your goal and always being your biggest fan, why the fuck are you wasting your time? They should be encouraging you, and making you feel like you can lift the whole fucking world if you truly want to.
- They do not shame you in any way
Shame is a rarely nice emotion, but when the person you love makes you feel ashamed, that’s when you know something is rotten in this relationship.
Now I’m not saying if you fart in public and they laugh a little it’s toxic, I’m saying if you fart in public and their reaction is one of these, then I don’t think you’re with your Dave.
- Looks at you with disgusts and tells you how unlady you are
- Tells everyone around you just farted
- Saying X person would’ve never done that
- Saying you just humiliated him
- Making big immature gestures and yelling how much you smell
You want someone’s who’s going to take the blame or either fart louder.
- They make time
I said it multiple times and I’ll say it again; Everybody has time for the right people.
If they don’t make time for you or say they’re too busy, then it may not be meant to be. I know some people are down bad with work or other occupation, but WE ALL have 5 minutes of our time to talk to the right person because we want to. I don’t give a single one shit fuck where this person is working, if they’re not operating in an ER for 8 hours, there is no valid reason for them to not say a quick Hi I miss you or Hi I’m thinking about you once in a while.
- They are ready for you
Right person wrong time isn’t a thing. If it is the wrong time, then it is not the right person. If they’re not at the same place in life, it’s okay but it means it’s just not the right soul for you. People live and people love, but true love is part of living and if you’re not with that X person it’s for a reason and you just weren’t meant to live love with them forever. Trust me, your Dave will be at the same place and will be ready to love and cherish the fuck out of you. However, remember, what’s meant to be will be. Always.
- You feel a different, healthy & mature kind of love
You feel it, it’s as you just ate a big ass salad, you know it soothes your soul and makes it better. It’s like adding a new color to your life and they make it better.
You’ll be surprised (or not) at how much they treat you right and feel at peace, or at least it’ll help you be at peace.
- They sweep you off your feet
Your soulmate will come in your life probably in a weird way, something you would’ve never expected and they will quite literally sweep you off your feet. You’ll be so shook towards what’s happening but you’ll feel it’s right and you’ll understand how much you truly deserved them as much as they deserved you this whole time.
You’ll know once you find your Dave, you’ll feel it. What you should know though, is that no one is perfect, you can find your Dave and both work on yourselves and be a healthier couple. This person just won’t be the one that disrespects you, nor the one that you’re scared is going to leave one day. They can, but if they do, then they’re not the one. You should also know that love includes fights, ups & downs and also pain. But respect should always be there and you should be aware of the bigger picture in every relationships because love can truly make you blind.
If you haven’t found your Dave, it’s okay just enjoy your time alone and you’ll be prepared for that amazing relationship. What you shouldn’t do though, is settling for less than what you deserve because it will never fulfill any part of your life. They all say ‘’better be alone than in bad company’’.
After reading this, can you confidently say you’ve found your Dave?
Mwah
