The love month, the romantic day, one of the most advertising-boosted day of the year; I present to you Valentines Day. Truth be told, it wasn’t always all lovey-dovey on February 14th, Google it and you’ll find how people used to spend their V-day. One old tradition was that women would stand in line to be hit by men so they could be fertile. What kind of fucked up shit was this???? I hate it. Anyways, it then started to be a day to remember two people named Valentine that were sacrificed if I read right, (what I’m saying is not straight up facts and I may have read wrong, don’t come for me but if you’re curious, do the research yourself). In the end, I don’t know how we got here but we did and in 2024 you guys in a relationship or soon-to-be in one better be asking your other half to be your valentine. However, no discrimination, my single people we’ll start with you, how you can spend the next Wednesday. Then we’ll get to the couples.
Spending V-Day alone
Honestly, I don’t hate Valentines Day, but I’m not in love with it either. It’s a Holiday that just doesn’t really resonate with me, it always did put a pressure on my shoulders as if I’m supposed to be in a relationship on that date, or I’m supposed to have sexual relationships with my partner on that specific date, or it’s such a bummer to be alone on that day. Now I know I don’t really fucking care, it’s a day just like the others, some celebrate their relationship, some celebrate having another fucking day on earth. I mean who the hell cares??? Why would we need a specific date to celebrate the love we have for someone? I’m a hopeless romantic that thinks you should be celebrating it every week, and if you’re single, celebrate life as it is. I mean it’s cute to see all the little surprises everyone does to their partner, but that’s something that should happen more than once a year.
Anyways, being single is great and you should celebrate it on that date.
- Spend another day as it is
Don’t pressure yourself, if you don’t feel like doing shit, then don’t. It can be another simple Wednesday in your life.
- Have a selfcare night
Whatever the self-care is, the one that makes you most happy, do it. Go to the gym, take an everything shower, eat pizza and watch a movie in your fav pjs, etc.
- Plan your next trip
That would be a great ‘’surprise’’ for yourself, just planning your next vacation alone and listening to your favorite music.
- Pamper
Go to a spa, get your nails done, get a pedicure, go shopping, get your hair or lashes done, go get a fucking tattoo, etc.
Put yourself on the pamper mode and use your time to make YOU happy.
- Watch horror movies
Or romantic ones. Whatever makes you happy.
- Go get drinks with your best friend
Go out with them if they’re available and have the blast of your life.
- Put your phone off
If Valentines Day is bothering you, then maybe ignore social medias for that day and spend it on yourself.
- Go on a run/walk
Go get some air and watch the sunset while doing so. It’ll clear up your head if V-day is making you sad.
- Yoga
Oh yoga is so the solution in so many situations. If walking didn’t clear your head, yoga will. Do it for you, do it to make YOU better. Just enjoy the moment and let go of any hurtful thoughts, maybe take a yoga class and it’ll make you get out of your house. Also, couples aren’t allowed to cuddle in front of you in that kind of class so you’ll get that out of the way if it does hurt you.
- Masturbate
It comes back in so many of my posts but I mean, of course! 😂
If you can’t have sex because you don’t have a partner, give yourself pleasure. Maybe go to a Sex shop and buy yourself a new toy that you can try on that exact date.
For the ones either married, legally together, or soon-to-be together
Ok so you’re trying to surprise your girlfriend/boyfriend for that so called special day? Ok I’ll help you but just know that I REALLY fucking hope you already asked them to be your valentine AND that you’ll do one of these surprises throughout the year too.
So it’s about to be corny and cheesy over here for the people that prefer to leave the post, I’ll understand. However, I, my friends, am putting out my hopeless romantic side in this piece and fucking thank me later for my genius ideas.
- Make an at home cinema
Ok, check it out, when I was a little kid, my father used to make my brother and I a big tent and we would play underneath it, it was like camping but in a warm, electricity-filled place which makes it even nicer than real camping!! Ok but for real, place an inflatable mattress or a normal one on the floor, put as many pillows and blankets as you can on it. Now you can decide to stop the set up here or you can try to make it better. Take two or three sheets (depends on how big the mattress is) and hook them up on something that’s around so it makes a big tent (now get your resourcefulness system working) and try to place the TV underneath it. Now, order whatever food your other half is craving (sushi, pizza, salad, whatever the fuck they want), and put it on there. Don’t be crazy by putting candles everywhere, it’s stupid, you might move and burn the whole place down, just don’t, there will be other opportunities to light up that cute smelling thing. Now you get them in the living room and surprise them.
- Fuck the flowers
FLOWERS ARE GREAT OK BUT NOT ON V-DAY IF YOU’RE TRYING TO BE ORIGINAL. Fucking buy them something meaningful, like their favorite hummus (I love the garlic one by a certain brand which I can’t remember the name anyways, just an example), or the special tiramisu from that place you went a year ago, or the bottle they’ve been eyeing for a while, or the same bottle of wine you drank on your first date, or whatever the hell that’s going to make them bawl their eyes out. The attention to details matters so much more than you think, seeing you didn’t forget them on V-day with flowers is great, but seeing you REMEMBERED them on V-day with something they told you privately is more than amazing.
- Give them pleasure WITHOUT wanting something in return
You really want to actually make them happy? Give them a back massage without expecting it becoming a sexual thing. Give them head without expecting it in return. Fucking clean the whole kitchen WITHOUT expecting them to give you sex after.
Being in a relationship with someone you TRULY love is giving to them without feeling like they owe you something, you’re just giving because you want to make them happy and you don’t give a fuck if they return the favor, but they will because they want you to be happy too. What I’m saying is giving while expecting in return is the absolute fucking worst in a relationship. It’s annoying we feel like you’re giving to receive and we don’t even want it anymore.
- Plan the whole thing
My man, if you really want to make your lady or man, happy, listen to me right here. Make a decision. ‘’I’ll pick you up at 6PM, put on something cute and classy and be as pretty as you always are’’, send that text, then you pick them up at 6PM, go to that cute restaurant they like or one BOTH of you have never tried and enjoy the night. Then, make them do something they wouldn’t usually do, just to spice up the night and make it memorable. Get them out of their comfort zone (obviously you know them and should know their limits). For example, take them ice skating if they’ve never done it, go to a big wheel to see the city lights, whatever think of something I can’t do it all for you.
- Hotel and spa
Basic, but works well. A little get away always is nice.
- Album photo
Give them something meaningful like make a whole photo album and write a note behind each photo you guys have. It doesn’t need to have you both on a picture, I mean it can be a sunset you watched together, a picture of you alone the night you went to your first date together, I mean write something they don’t know. Like ‘’that night is when I fell in love with your smile’’ or ‘’when you said X thing that day, you made me laugh so much and I’ll never forget it’’ or ‘’I was so nervous to see you that day I changed my outfit like 5 times’’, you know, they can’t read your mind, but open it to them and I promise you it’ll make them really happy.
A letter is also a great way to make V-day memorable because I can confirm they’ll keep it forever.
Also, thanks to this girl at Starbucks that gave me that idea. Love ya.
In the end, V-day is a normal day but you can decide to make it memorable and it doesn’t have to be expensive. Learn your other half’s love language and learn how to make them feel loved in that way. You make everyday special just by loving them but a surprise always is nice. I hope that helped you and for my single fellas, it’s just another day, but it’s also a day that remembers you that love exists and it’s out there. Love yourself first and you’ll never regret investing time in you.
Feel free to leave suggestions/ideas for self-date/relationship dates in the comments!
Mwah yourself this week or your other half.
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