Nowadays people don’t need to be married to have sex. It only takes two persons interested in one another and completely consensual to exercise it. Saying it that way makes it look so simple yet I feel like it’s much more complicated. At least it is for me. Why is it this complicated though? I have multiple reasons that come to mind, but my first one is how much you like that person? Society is another one too but that’s a whole other chapter. Now we’re all different and I know some people find less complicated than others, but my real question here is; Is casual sex a good thing?
What is casual sex?
Having a fuck buddy is someone you can rely on to give you orgasms, pleasure, and some kind of closure with someone. Casual sex to me is having a certain someone that fulfills you in a way other people don’t LOL. It’s someone you taught what you like in bed and they made you discover other things or vice-versa. They’re here to give you pleasure BUT you won’t have to give the whole relationship back to them. It’s just sex. Just, sex. You’re making your body feel good, not your heart dear.
Why casual sex?
While I’m high on the you’re never better satisfied than by yourself, we both know you’re not able to kiss yourself or feel your touch the way you feel someone else’s touch on you. Although sex toys are becoming more and more interesting they can’t completely replace doing this with another human being.
People start casual sex for the good reason that they either don’t like you enough to make you their girlfriend/boyfriend but you’re a good fuck so whatever. OR people may even start casual sex only because they haven’t dealt with past traumas and are ‘’emotionally’’ unavailable. Too scared to face their own feelings, BUT they have needs which includes fucking. Or they’re trying to fulfill a fantasy that doesn’t include love.
Catching feelings, not flights
Yep. Feelings.
We either ignore them for so long that when they catch up they hit us as hard as a fucking baseball bat right on our face OR we deal with them right here right now, we hurt and then we let them go and move the fuck on. We are scared to feel because sometimes it hurts so fucking bad we just want it to have never been there. Yet the feeling persists and that makes our story, our own story. Catching feelings is scary as shit because you’re vulnerable of feeling something that’s hurtful. Whether you’re hurt or not is someone else’s decision, you have no control on that matter and that’s scary. However, it’s the biggest reason why people decide to have casual sex. They just can’t commit but still want the sex part. No shame in this though.
Living your absolute best life
I know what I said up there, but I do think a lot of people just really enjoy being single, by themselves and don’t necessarily want love right now. Like I said though, there’s a limit to fulfilling your sexual needs by yourself and if you’re single and do find someone to have casual sex with, than fucking go for it and enjoy it till the end.
You know what they say, get laid if you can & want sis (& of course if the other party is consensual and ok nobody says that but I just did ok).
My opinion
What should you do?
EHMMMMMM that’s up to you darlin. Don’t think I’m telling you what to do, you do you boo but I’ll give you my honest opinion.
Casual sex is dangerous, because in most cases, either you get hurt, or you hurt someone. I honestly am not sure what is worse. You’ve got to face it though, fuck buddies ALWAYS end up with one of the two parties wanting more than sex. First, it’s cuddles, then it’s a night over, then they’re telling you they want more. We’ve all seen it, either around us, in movies, or in our experience. It’s like when you have good sex with someone you kind of connect because on the moment right now, they’re giving you pleasure and next thing you know you might end up craving that connection more and more, in a sexual or non-sexual way. You can’t tell me otherwise. RARE are the cases where both parties only want sex from beginning to end.
Starting a casual type of relationship, you have got to be aware of this possibility.
I’m not completely against it though. Because, what IF you can’t commit fully to someone? What if this type of sex is supposed to happen in order for you to be hurt and realise that you want more? Or in order to make you realise how you need to deal with yourself first? OR and think about this one, what if it’s supposed to happen so you learn more about what you like and don’t like in sex?? Oh.
My honest opinion; I’d say go for it. For starters, I think you’d prefer someone to start knowing you sex-friendly than having a weird fucking experience with a stranger on a random Friday night. WHAT’S IMPORTANT THOUGH, is that you set your boundaries as soon as you start doing this casual thing. Don’t go in there not talking about this first, both of you need to be honest AS FUCK. Don’t go leading someone on, or don’t let yourself enter a situation you’re not comfortable in. Respect yourself first, and set your limits. After that, may the orgasms be with you LOL. You really can’t do that without acknowledging what may happen and making sure everyone is comfortable & consensual with the situation. Be honest.
In the end, I don’t think casual sex is a bad thing, I think people just start casual sex ignoring the possibilities of what can happen. They may not want anything more with you or YOU may not want anything more. It may not even work, you both may not even be sexually compatible, but trying it while respecting your own boundaries is the absolute fucking way to go. In the end, if you have a bad experience you talk about it in a girls dinner and we laugh it out sis.
Mwwaah.
