‘’I’ll be happy when…’’ Fuck this, be happy right now. Being happy is not a constant state of mind, being happy is being grateful you’re taking care of yourself on the bad days when you feel like the shittiest person ever. You’ll never be happy if your reason to be happy is in the future only. It’s easy to say ‘’I’ll feel better when Summer comes’’, ‘’I’ll be happy when I get this job’’, ‘’I’ll take time for myself when life isn’t that busy’’. My friend if you want to feel better you have to start now, because when the thing you’re excited about arrives, you may not be as happy as you would if you’d enjoy the little things before. Being present in the moment is not always the easiest thing to do, especially if you struggle with anxiety. However, it is one thing that will bring you so much more peace.
Here are the advices I found and am now giving to you guys.
- Trust your future fucking self
Trust that they’ll take care of everything when you get there and they’ll do it the best way possible. Trusting you can take care of things when shit hits the fan makes you able to sit back and relax, thus, being in the present.
- Put your phone away
Yea maybe the picture would be worth it but sometimes, just literally sitting back and enjoying what’s happening in front of your eyes can be so much more worth it. Although it’s not only about pictures, it’s about just feeling the soon-to-be-a-memory moment without being distracted with social medias, or phone games, or fucking emails. Let the emails go for at least 1 hour, hell let it all go for at least 2 hours.
- Take a deep breath and feel
That’s one thing I learned in meditation and I absolutely loved it.
Ok so you just look around, close your eyes, take five deep breaths and within each deep breath you focus on one sense. For example, first breath you focus on what you can smell, you identify it, you feel it. Second breath, you feel the touch so maybe the sun on your skin, the wind in your hair, or just the the touch of your own fingertips, etc. Third one you listen to what’s around you to the smallest detail. Fourth one, you taste, maybe you’re chewing gum, maybe you just ate pasta, I don’t know just feel it. Lastly, you open up your eyes and look all around you and oooouuff deep breath. You better try before judging this.
- Observe the place you’re in
Take a look around and name 5 things that make you happy, grateful or that brings you peace. You have to name 5 things you wouldn’t usually name (such as a sunset if you already love them). This allows you to open up your view and notice what’s truly around you. It can be as simple as the bricks being perfectly aligned on a house, or a cute cloud, I don’t know just try it.
- Stop being an ungrateful fool
Fucking be grateful you’re breathing on your own. Be grateful for what’s around you, what’s not around you, what’s in your heart, what’s on your mind, because you GET to do or see all of these. Change your perception to ‘’I get to’’ instead of ‘’I have to’’. Maybe try writing 5 things you’re grateful for at the end of the day or just when you’re about to complain for the 13th time since the last 5 minutes you take a step back and be grateful you get to experience what you are experiencing. Complaining makes us feel good, but long term talking gratefulness makes you feel better/greater.
- Live for you, right now
Fuck what they think. Let your body feel what it wants to feel, let your emotions be fully present, let your personality get out in the world, let yourself fucking glow, that’s when you’ll be happier. Okay if you feel sad, you get to feel it. You’re sad because something great happened and it hurt you, but still something great happened and you got to live it. You get to feel, you get to experience, you get to learn, but only if you truly let yourself live it all. Don’t tell yourself ‘’I’ll start when X happens, when I’m at X place, when I’m with X person…’’, start now, right. fucking. now. Living can’t be scheduled like a dentist appointment, it’s something you should do every second of every minute of everyday.
Being in the present moment is so hard for today’s society, or even all past societies. We always think of the future, we become stressed about it and we invent scenarios, we expect and we’re disappointed or we expect and we get better, whatever it is, in the end we’re forgetting that we don’t remember each day, we remember moments through them. Memories we made and cherish, moments that built us up. What I’m saying is what a lot of people say, but we only have the present moment and even though we might forget it in a few months, right now it matters and in two days it’ll still matter. Be there and enjoy, the future is going to come when it has to, the present is precious. It’s a fucking gift.
Mwah.
