One thing about me is I don’t have a huge circle of friends, but the ones that are there are kind of all my best friends. The ones that constantly show me they’re willing to make time for me, that enjoy my presence, the friendships that make us both glow are the ones I wish for everybody. Fuck the ones that are fakes, the ones that bring down your energy or the jealous ones, they count as burdens not friends. Set them free out of your life and you’ll set yourself free. I’d like to add that years isn’t necessarily the biggest thing in friendships. It’s not who’s been there the longest, it’s who’s been there in tough times, who’s rooting for you, who calls you when they get happy news and want to hear your call when YOU have great news. The ones that really count, are the ones you can count on any day. Now, let me tell you from my opinion, why best friends are so important.
- Debriefs
After a night out, after an event, after a whole day outside, many fucking things might have happened and with a best friend you get to fucking debrief the shit out of it. You get to remake the scene it’s like a whole play you guys are making. Also, when it comes to situations that happened to you, you get to talk to them and debrief it over and over and as many times as you want.
- The truth & nothing but the truth
A real best friend is someone that gives you the truth respectfully. They tell you what they really fucking think because they respect you and know that you deserve to know the whole truth. What’s also great about this is that you get to be completely honest about what happened in your life. You get to give them every details even the embarrassing ones because they might laugh but they’ll keep it for them and won’t judge you.
- Friends dates
You get to do many activities with them and live life together. You get to share memories that you both will remember in many years and probably talk about it again. What you don’t feel like doing alone, you can do with them.
You can have coffee dates, painting dates, a fucking complete trip, a night out, a restaurant date, cinema date, walking partner, gym partner, shopping date, etc.
- Someone that wants to see YOU win
A real best friend isn’t threatened by you or jealous, they’re their own person and know that you are your own person. They don’t bring you down, they actually want to see you up there, I mean they usually want you to win more than you do. Someone that can look you in the eyes and take the time to say ‘’I’m proud of you for this or for doing this’’ is someone that will be cheering you at the finish line because you won. However, that’s also someone that will be there when the path gets rough, which leads me to my next point.
- A shoulder you can lean on
When times get rough and you feel like you can’t help yourself that much, seeing your friend and having them next to you can be just the thing you need. I remember a week I had the worst time ever, I was so anxious and didn’t feel at my best at all, then I saw my friend and we laughed the entire fucking time and it brought me so much joy I went home after and felt like my whole battery was recharged. Not drained. Because she was there when I needed it and also because…
- Laughing till you piss yourself
What other fucking use does a best friend have???? (I’m joking, obviously multiple others). Seriously laughing with your friend is wholesome, and laughing makes you live longer so go see that humorist of yours.
- They push you out of your comfort zone
My best friend and I are like opposites but at the same time have so much in common. The first time I saw her, I knew she’d be my bestie (I look like I’m talking about my husband LOL) and we bonded over things we had in common. However, getting to know one another I realised how different we were, but opposites attracts so that’s completely fucking fine. She got me out of my comfort zone multiple times and made me see through her vision which is something I did with her too. Getting out of your comfort zone can be scary but having someone beside you can make it a bit easier.
- Getting each other
The feeling of someone getting what you’re saying, getting what you’re going through and just listening to you makes life better. Venting for hours without them making you feel bad about it can lift a big weight but so is you both bonding over something you completely agree. You’re connecting with someone without it being romantic and it’s amazing.
Those are the main reasons I feel like everyone should have a best friend. I mean I don’t know what I’d do without mines. They help you grow, hell they see you change and still love you through it all, they see you make mistakes but still wipe the tears from your face, they see you embarrass yourself but they laugh at the situation with you, they fucking got your back and that’s something you should be grateful for.
Now send them a coffee via uber to show them your appreciation.
MWAHSS
